Part 3… Emotions and Bach Remedies

Hello lovely friend,

Now you know more about Dr Bach, pictured here, and how he developed his system of healing, I’d like to delve into why and when we may like to experience the beauty of the Flower Remedies.

It’s quite a large topic and I have pondered it over the course of the week.

Beginning with emotions is the appropriate place to begin, because the consultation, and indeed if you choose to use the system for yourself, invites us to be clear about our emotions…

Sometimes I think we know our best friends better than we truly know ourself. It’s a wonderful discovery that isn’t about becoming perfect, but rather agreeing to see ourselves as we truly are, hidden feelings, fears and all..

The first thing Dr Bach wanted us to do was to return to our true nature, the ‘us’ that lies within, often buried through prior conditioning, unhelpful prior patterns, and other people’s opinion on who and what we should be. Sometimes we’re the ‘people pleasers’, wanting to impress others, holding unrealised dreams, or giving in to fears preventing us from living a truly fulfilled life.

He believed the vibrational energy of the flowers could flood our soul with the opposite virtue of a heavy emotion, in turn revealing our soul, our purpose, however simple that may be. We cannot be the best version of ourselves if self doubt, insecurities, inadequacies, and fears keep us locked into a place whereby we cannot move forward.

Life is pure potential through discovering our true natures and finding a home for them to shine their light.

From the place of a peace and living according to our own values, even the most simple of encounters each day can provide the opportunity to Love…to make someone else feel like they matter, our replenished heart is able to reach outwards for others.

Life is about progress and movement, as the flowing river and the changing of the seasons teach us.

Every part of us is vibrating, constantly changing through the sloughing of what is no longer required or in a state of renewal.

Emotions, ‘E-Motions’, are purely ‘energy’ in motion.

They are all here for a reason, otherwise, according to evolution, they would have died out. Even the so called ‘negative’ emotions have a purpose. They are only called negative because they impact our health adversely if we allow them to remain trapped and unseen until we have a trigger that brings into our consciousness. That’s just what the ‘pain body’ loves, as defined and described by Eckhart Tolle in his book tilted ‘A New Earth’ and ‘The Power of Now.’ He states, ‘Pain can only feed on pain. Pain cannot feed on joy. It finds it quite indigestible.’

In another book titled ‘Molecules of Emotion’, Candace B. Pert, PH.D. states this about emotions; ‘And the emotions are felt throughout the body as sensations.’ And further… ‘All honest emotions are positive emotions…The key is to express it and then let it go, so that it doesn’t fester, or build or escalate out of control.’

The growth lies in looking at them square in the face and asking ‘Why are you here, and what have you to teach me?’

Only when we fully own and accept an emotion we are embarrassed or ashamed to admit to feeling, can we tame it and watch it lose its power and hold over us.

It’s not easy to accept we have feelings of guilt, jealousy, fear, anger. They have certainly been given a bad reputation. If we can find a quiet place to really feel…perhaps allow tears to flow, to go within, be truthful and honest with ourselves, may we begin the journey towards ‘healing’.

One example of Healing as described in the Cambridge dictionary;

‘The process in which a bad situation or painful emotion ends or improves.’ It goes on to add an example, ‘Healing only begins when the hurt is shared with someone.’ Or, I will add, when we know what we are feeling. It wants our attention…When these feelings cannot flow freely through our body, this can often present itself as an illness or a real physical pain.

We aren’t to blame at all, as it’s part of life to be moved by things, and to feel, but awareness of the power of our emotions is our right, and once we know, we have more incentive to manage them.

The potential resides within us, awaiting our permission for emotional wounds to be cleared from our subconscious.

And so, once we have become aware of how we are feeling, the gentle flower remedies can be called on to restore our faith in ourselves, and our ‘Being’ in the world, to return us to balance and encourage healing.

I heard a lovey phrase by Panache Desai describing himself as ‘an old friend who is here to remind us that we have everything we need to be whole. We are not broken.’

I thought that was the most beautiful way to describe himself.

We could also describe ourselves in the same way… to be here for each other, to give of our time, share our presence.

The Remedies are too, like dear old friends, who are here to remind us of that very thing.

They guide our hearts and our soul to provide us with moments of gentle awakening, returning us to what is inside all along.

They gently whisper to us…’Come on my love. You are returning to yourself.’

They work differently from the pharmaceutical model we are used to. They don’t provide an instant shift in gear, as they aren’t prescribed for physical ailments anyway, but create more of a awakening through a ripple effect over days, weeks and months.

As Stefan Ball, who is the head consultant at the Bach Centre in Oxfordshire, explains, we don’t always remember or realise our headache has gone. We just get on with our day and it’s not until later on we remember ‘Oh yes, I had a pain in my head this morning’. That’s how the remedies work. We may realise after a period of time that we feel more confident, or don’t react to things the way we used to. We begin to remember how we are supposed to feel.

‘They will always work,’ explains a teacher in one of the books I read on Flower Remedies.

The difference lies in the density of our energies that may be heavy and stuck from the emotional pain we haven’t been able to access, often for a lifetime. In those situations, there may be layers of an onion that need to be peeled away, always beginning with what is currently occurring in our emotional body.

There is no blame, no shame, as we are all in the same situation called life, with our hurts, disappointments, grief, losses…

The gift we can offer each other is to listen and be present, with no judgement.

I myself can relate to every one of the 38 remedies, and can think of a time whereby I could have ‘received’ their encouragement back to healing.

It’s from that place we can be here for each other, seeing ourselves in another. This fosters true compassion.

The remedies may give us unique ‘aha’ moments once we are better in tune with ourselves.

It can be a truly beautiful journey of getting to know ourselves on a deeper level, and how we can make the world a better place just by being who we are.

My wish in sharing is to invite you into yourself. Whether you choose to discover the healing thereafter from the remedies is entirely up to you. I would love to support you on the journey, but trust you have the inner knowing that you are a beautiful, already whole person, who perhaps has lost their way temporarily. We all find ourselves in that space from time to time.

Thank you for reading and being here. I send much love to you on this journey called life.

Dianne❤️

Part 2…The discoveries of Dr Bach.

Mount Vernon. Image by Dianne whilst attending Level 1

Hello lovely,

And so…this week, I would like to share with you what, exactly, Dr Bach discovered…

He found that flowers have a resonance all of their own… a vibrational fingerprint of the highest order. The remedies, as indeed all flower remedies (also known as essences) are classed as Vibrational Medicine, working on the subtle energy system of our body to restore wellbeing. I think Dr Bach described it beautifully in the quote above.

Through his intuition and profound connection with the wildflowers, he was able to learn when a particular flower would balance his particular emotional state. He left London and travelled all over the country and into Wales in search of the flowers as a match for our various emotional states. He became his own test case, and would eventually move from London to a new home, called Mount Vernon, in the tiny village of Sotwell in Oxfordshire, pictured above. It was here he tested his new discoveries on his patients.
People would line up to be treated by Dr Bach using his new method of healing.

He received excellent results.

In time, word spread about this new way of returning us to the state of wellbeing through balancing our emotions, or feelings of being ‘stuck’ in a pattern that doesn’t serve us.
He trained three assistants to help with correspondence from people around the world who wrote about their healing stories after using his remedies.

Dr Bach’s method of preparing the remedies involves either floating the blossoms gently in a glass bowl filled with pure spring water and allowed to steep under full sun for three hours.

An example of the sun method. Picture by Dianne

Or by the boiling method. This is for tougher, woodier plants whose flowers are boiled in Spring water for half an hour.

These two methods transfer the signature of the flower’s vibrational essence to become one with the water. This transformed water, called the ‘Mother Tincture’ is then preserved in quality Brandy and poured off to become the ‘stock bottles’ you’ll see in the shops.

Perhaps you have heard of Rescue Remedy?

Rescue Remedy, pictorial of its contents

There are countless examples of the blend within this tiny yellow bottle delivering fast results from traumatic and overwhelming situations or emergencies.
Rescue Remedy consists of five individual flower remedies you can see in the picture above.

Some remedies will have a near immediate result with our passing moods, whilst others for balancing long-held emotional patterns can take weeks or longer.

There are studies beginning to emerge about how the process actually works but Dr Bach wanted to keep his system free of Science in order to keep it simple and in my words, very personal. He also wished that we could all reach for a remedy when we require nurturing from nature to regain our zest and joy for life.

He wrote ‘I want it to be as simple as this. I am hungry, I will go and pull a lettuce from my garden for my tea; I am frightened and ill, I will take a dose of Mimulus.’

The remedies have absolutely no side effects, are gentle enough to be used for pregnant women, babies and pets, and with any kind of medication. The only thing we must bring to your awareness is if you are very sensitive to alcohol or are wishing to avoid all traces of it for any reason. In this case, you may prefer to add them to hot drinks to evaporate the alcohol or to rub the drops onto pulse points. By the time you dilute the drops from the stock bottle into a personal mixer bottle with spring water, there is almost no alcohol to be an issue in most circumstances.

 

In coming posts, I’ll delve more into the process of choosing a remedy, our emotions, the reason I’m becoming a practitioner and why they are an integral part of Dr Bach’s system, and…to introduce you to the beautiful flowers themselves.

For now, thank you so much for visiting my post.

Until next time, much love,

Dianne ❤️🌸

Bach Flower Remedies… part 1. Who is Dr Bach?

Welcome beautiful one,

The time has arrived to begin sharing exactly what the Bach Flower Remedies are all about. I’ve been waiting for the right time, as I have mentioned them so many times in my Instagram posts.

I also referenced them in an earlier blog post, and I’m so proud to share with you the story of this beautiful, gentle healing modality…

Healing with flower essences is actually not a new discovery. It has been around for thousands of years throughout many cultures, and it was Dr Edward Bach, an English Physician, Bacteriologist and Homeopath who brought this healing modality to our awareness in the early 1900’s.

Edward Bach was born in England in 1886. In the book titled ‘The Medical Discoveries of Edward Bach Physician’, Nora Weeks relates the story that Edward as a young boy ‘would oftentimes sit in the classroom and dream of a time when he might begin his work.’ Both as a doctor and that answers lay out in Nature.

He entered Medical college in Birmingham and came to London to complete his training, qualifying in 1912.

In 1917 he became ill with a life threatening condition, and was given three months to live. With his last remaining weeks of life, he threw himself into his medical career and research, so he wouldn’t leave unfinished findings.

After a few months, realised he forgot about his disabilities from his illness and found that he had grown stronger.

From this experience, he pondered deeply into the relationship between disease and the effect illness places upon our mind, and in reverse, the impact that troubled or uplifting thoughts have on our body.

And so, in 1930, he left his thriving Medical Practice in London’s Harley Street and his research as a Bacteriologist, believing in his heart of hearts that there was a different way of healing, a new form of Medicine, that would cause no harm, and could be prepared through the benevolence of Mother Nature herself.

He spent his days out in nature in the English and Wales countryside, which had always been a major love, believing there had to be a simple method of returning to us to wellness. In time, he discovered a system of 38 flower remedies with each one correlating to a particular emotional state, passing mood, or character trait.

He knew that the disturbance of our peace mind could be returned to balance through the vibrational energy contained within the highest expression of nature… the benevolent flowers themselves.

So it was Dr Bach’s wish and subsequent discovery, that treating the whole person, mind, body, and spirit, can result in healing.

As his companion, Nora Weeks describes, ‘He harboured an overwhelming compassion for all who suffered….and love for nature.’

He also observed that in many situations, the symptoms of a patient would be greatly reduced or dissolve into nothingness once the patient is treated compassionately, offered hope, encouraged to feel peaceful in the comforting presence of practitioners or other medical staff, to eradicate fear, and to have faith that they will be healed.

In other words, they will be surrounded with such an uplifting, encouraging environment that recovery cannot help but be returned, or at the very least, their emotional suffering greatly relieved.

Dr Bach passed away just after his 50th birthday, having lived for nearly 20 years after his grave prognosis.

So it’s my pleasure to introduce you to this system gifted to us by Dr Bach. There are now many countries around the world who teach and provide consultations, as well as many countries who have developed their own Flower remedies.

Dr Bach… your boyhood dream came true.

I’m not trying to convert you, but to simply share this passion I have grown into, and which has grown into me…and my hope is that it may bring you hope and encouragement by reading this🌸

Thank you for your company here,

Much love,

Dianne 💕

Thoughts on bravery…

image-1…This week’s affirmation for you…and me.✨

Hello beautiful,

We all have our own personal indicators of what being brave means.

For some of our beloved community, it’s getting out of bed to face another day of pain, grief or a different hardship…

To some, it’s climbing a mountain…

And for others, it’s somewhere in between.

Begin today…💫💫

Allow yourself the gift of being vulnerable enough to be brave…

Yes, it takes a lot of bravery to step out of our own shadow of fear and into the light.

Each day, aim to do, think or say something that you don’t usually ‘see’ yourself doing or saying…

Something that perhaps takes you a little closer to the sharing of yourself and connecting your soul with another…

It may ‘feel’ different, and feel scary, but it’s still ‘You’, perhaps even more so once you push through the fear of being judged or on show…

Allow your inner beauty to be seen.

In time, and with daily practise, patience and love, you’ll get used to this new feeling…

‘I can do it’ you whisper. ‘I AM brave.’

Then revisit the feeling tonight before you sleep…

Think about the progress you made however small it seems to you.

Don’t judge it, but congratulate yourself on being brave…

stepping out of your comfort zone…

Be gentle on yourself, sweetheart.

Because in the end, a journey begins with the first step…

🌺It’s in our Today that a new future begins…🌺

Thank you for your kind visit, I appreciate it.

Much love,

💕Dianne💕

Hello…It’s been a while…

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Hello beautiful,

As you may remember from my last post here,  dated September 2017, I am currently in London with my husband. We have been here for 15 months already, and the time is flying.

Please excuse my absence from WordPress, as I have been so busy learning about myself and progressing on my journey towards even greater self-acceptance.
I know I was meant come to England. It had called me since I was a teenager and the brilliant universe heard my heart’s desire.

After listening to many podcasts, and YouTube clips, notably by Gregg Braden, during early 2017 I began to feel the feeling of being in London, down to the cafe where I would sit and write my blog posts.
I would say to my husband, Tony, ‘When we live in London….’ and he would correct me and say ‘if’ and ‘you know there is no real movement from my company going on in The UK. It’s all happening technology-wise in Asia.’
But I’d have none of it and say ‘no… when. Play along. We have nothing to lose.’

And so he began to play along with me.

One day in June of 2017, he sheepishly stood in our doorway with his iPad saying
‘I think you’d kill me if I didn’t respond to this email…it’s about a posting to the London office’.

I couldn’t believe it… no; actually I could. Everything I’d been learning about our thoughts and how the universe worked had manifested into something very real. A long held dream was coming true.
There is a quote I’ve recently discovered as attributed to the poet Goethe…

“Be careful what you wish for in youth, because you will get it in middle life.’

How utterly magical.

Evidence indeed that the power of our thoughts and deep desires are much more profound that we could ever imagine. I’m here to let you know they are powerful.

I’ve written before about the weight of a word, and I believe it even more now.

So, after reading the email from Tony, I began to pack, even before it was confirmed. I just trusted the universe wouldn’t dangle this dream before me and not deliver.

We arrived in the UK in September of 2017…

Since then, I’ve soaked up every opportunity to discover more about myself, where I fit into the world and why I have been called to this country for most of my formative years.

I’ve enrolled in numerous courses, attended Spiritual talks, read, listened, learnt…

And the most beautiful realisation from being here…
I have fallen in love.
Yes, totally and utterly with something that I thought was perhaps a passing curiosity…

You see, I enrolled in a course at the Bach Centre in Oxfordshire. I had googled it many times from the lounge room of my Melbourne home, wondering what these little brown bottles of something special were all about. I would see them in my health food store and always wonder how they could help, how to choose one and what their names meant.
I promised myself if I ever got to be in England for longer than a week or two on holiday, I’d attend a course at the centre.

So come April this year, I did. I enrolled in Level 1.

I soon discovered, with the help of one of the essences, that this was what I’d been looking for. It was a healing modality that finally fitted my personality, and all those traits that I used to be ashamed of were now a perfect fit for this energy healing modality. They had a purpose…

The Bach Flower consultation involves talking about how someone really feels at this present time (I love deep and meaningful conversations),
what’s going on in their current emotional life that has perhaps tipped them out of balance, listening well (I’ve always preferred to listen than to talk),
and then creating a personal mix of remedies (I love creating healthy blends of anything…food, drinks…) according to the emotional needs of the person. It’s also an educational and collaborative role, rather that me being the person doing the healing.

So this is the perfect combination. It’s simple, but with profound results.

….Level 1 became Level 2, which come last October, became Level 3. I’m now on track to becoming a Bach Foundation Registered Practitioner, known as BFRP.

The balancing of emotions comes from empowerment. Empowerment of the person receiving the consultation to create their own constructive environment for healing.

So, I cannot wait, and am literally bursting with ideas and future posts to help spread the word of Dr Edward Bach, the power of our mind and lots more.

I will be proudly sharing about them in coming weeks, but I just wanted to stop by and say hello. I’m glad you are here.

Please, if you take anything from this first post from the other side of the world…it’s that dreams do come true.
Feel them ‘as if’ they are already happening, and create the heart felt environment of it already existing.

I’ll include a link to a 12 minute Gregg Braden clip with the summary of the information that changed my life…

Thank you so much for reading, and for being here.

I send love and wish you many blessings for this new year.

Dianne xx

The Money Tree

“The heart surrenders everything to the moment. The mind judges and holds everything back.”
Ram Dass 

 

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A Money Tree further down the driveway

 

 

Hello and welcome,

As my hubby and I prepare to leave Melbourne for London in just over a week, we are making good progress with our ‘to-do’ list…
until a small bush between our driveway and the next door neighbour’s fell onto our side. It wasn’t a high priority to tend to it immediately, and became something else to add to the growing list of things to finalise before departure day.

I decided this particular sunny lunch time I would sneak out to begin breaking off the branches that had toppled over.

I was all set to dive into one of my beloved podcasts while I performed the operation, when my lovely neighbour appeared. She came over onto my side to have a chat and noticed what I was about to do.
She offered to help me and I reassured her I would be able to manage it on my own. I didn’t want her to put herself out, as she was still carrying her handbag…and after all, I was all set for some good listening while I was busy in the lovely winter sun, before scurrying back inside to pack and fill in forms.

She insisted she help, and promptly began breaking up some of the softer branches.
I watched on as she took control of the situation, initially disappointed that my ‘quiet time’ outside was disappearing.
As I watched her, I suddenly became overwhelmed with a feeling…

A feeling of ‘no, this is happening exactly as it should be. Just allow the moment to unfold…Give her space to help if she insisted on doing so.’

And so I did.

After proceeding to fetch the garden waste bin and wheeling it out to the driveway, we both worked together, chatting as we went.

Two neighbours home at the same time on a sunny lunch time.

It was more special because we haven’t had a lot to do with them, although we were always on friendly terms whenever we would cross paths- everyone seems to keep to themselves a lot more now days.

May, my neighbour, referred to the bush as a Money Tree. I’m not very strong with botanical names or common names for many plants and flowers so I took her word for this.
A feeling that pervaded this story was of a moment that was ‘off my script’…the script being my ‘to-do’ list for the day.

A keen sense that I will perhaps never share time like this again with my lovely neighbour enabled me to just ‘be’, knowing I was preparing to fly off for a long period of time. I remained enveloped in the contentment that everything is unfolding as it should, the acceptance and surrendering that sometimes the most magical of moments occur when we least expect them.

It proffered new meaning for the ‘Money Tree’ experience…

…Perhaps we both became richer that afternoon.

…Perhaps the pruning of the tree gave us greater insight into each other, the chance to pause and appreciate.

It have me reason to think that sometimes the most beautiful moments are the ones that take us off course…
The moments that don’t match our script…
The moments we aren’t expecting…
We have to make room for these moments because this is where the love lies,
in the micro-moments,
through the fostering of connection.

And you know what? I still managed to do all my other chores I had planned for the afternoon. Sometimes I find if I proceed slowly, I actually get more done. It seems to be a little paradox of Time I have noticed.

May we all grant ourselves permission to things to take us off course,
to leave the script from time to time,
to be mindful of these moments occurring before our eyes…
and simply share the gift of our presence.

“Remember then: There is only one time that is important – Now! It is the most important time because it’s the only time when we have any power.”
Leo Tolstoy


Thank you for being here,
Much love,
Di

 

Inspirational people…

 

Hello to you, and welcome,

This week, I’m saying very little…
I really want to introduce you to two utterly inspiring Australians who epitomise the art of Resilience

Firstly
The second awesome Australian is Turia Pitt.

I’ve been following Turia’s journey since she came to our attention after being horrifically burnt in a fire in 2012.
She is interviewed with her amazing partner in a short video that I’m sure will melt you, move you and have you reaching for the tissues. Throughout it all is a beautiful story of Love and resilience.

Please don’t listen to do me a favour, please listen to do yourselves a favour. 

If we are able to soak up the wisdom from people who have been through so much… If they can inspire us…
If their tragedies, struggles and triumphs can be given meaning by sharing of
themselves for others…

Anything I can do to share stories and inspiring people who allow us the gift of falling in love with life again after hardships…then I’m content…

I wish you well,
much love,

Di xx

 

An interview with Maurice Gleeson from ‘The Weekly With Charlie Pickering: Interviews Series 3.’

 

 

An interview with Turia Pitt

Creative prompt…The Bright Side of Life.

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The quote above is from the Monty Python song ‘Always Look on the Bright Side of Life.’ A very cheerful tune in itself…I hope you can sing along whilst you are reading…

Hello there, this week, I’m contributing to Nikki of FlyingThrough Water and her creative prompt ‘The Bright Side’.

There is so much goodness that comes from being positive, looking on the bright side, not dwelling on the negative. This has been promoted heavily in the self-help movement as Positive thinking.
Keeping Gratitude journals are excellent ways to maintain our focus on the good things in life. Even if at times it feels as if life really isn’t going in our favour.

But is it necessary and even healthy, to ignore a huge part of life when things go wrong?
To attempt to deny the feelings that accompany the less desirable parts of life?

It’s easy to fall into the pattern of blame and negative thinking with phrases such as ‘this always happens to me’, ‘I never win anything,’ and ‘everyone else seems to be having a better life than me…’ These defeating self talk patterns can swim around and around in our head for days, weeks or even months. Believe me, I know. I’ve been called a catastrophizer in the past…
We are unaware of how much it’s become an ingrained, almost reflex attitude to life. We are in great danger of attracting more of what we don’t want through these negative reactions.

This isn’t acceptance of the challenges that arise. It’s more about living in fear.

But there is another way of accepting the curve balls that life throws at us. It’s called Positive Psychology and is described beautifully in a short interview here by a researcher called Barbara Fredrickson. She believes resilience and strategies for managing the hard times is the more proactive way to respond. I hope you find it helpful.

 Dr. Andrea Dinardo writes about these important topics in her inspiring blog,
Thriving under Pressure.

Can we still find happiness when we are facing hard times that can rock us to our core?
Can we really just look on the bright side of life that readily?

I believe it comes down the that beautiful expression…
We can ‘make lemonade out of lemons’…

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Now, I can see a huge pile of sour, bitter lemons presenting themselves before me. Yes, they are here, they are not going away anytime soon.
What to do with them now they are mine? Somehow I took ownership of them without even asking…

Well, I can try to ignore them, long enough, and the rotting sphere of once brilliant yellow will call us to attention even harder. Glossing over things and ignoring them can only be of value for a period of time.

Or

I can sit with them for a while, say ‘hello lemons’, ponder ‘what am I going to do with you?’
Leaving them in the back of the fridge in the dark will not make them go away.

Ok… attitude shift.
I’ll take those lemons, slice them open to allow the light of  day to penetrate, squeeze them until the juice inside runs out, after all, the only way to remove the juice is through squeezing them… and when I have taken what I can from them, it’s now time to find a way to make it work for me. To restore the sweetness to life, even in the midst of discovering that things aren’t proceeding as planned or as I wished them to be.

I add sugar…

So perhaps it’s not about desperately thrashing around in a stressful state aiming to remove or find a quick fix for something…

It’s not about turning a blind eye to the challenges, less than desirable experiences and negative parts of life, as if they didn’t exist, attempting to sweep them under the carpet.

Perhaps looking on the bright side of life is truly about acceptance of what is, sitting with negativity, sadness, disappointment, just long enough for our emotions to feel seen and heard. Once we name the beast, we tame the beast, and could we even find a way to love it?

Like a recipe I need to modify, it’s not possible to remove the ingredients already mixed…

But what I may choose to do is add a sprinkle of this, a dash of that, a pinch of something extra, until before us lies a totally new recipe, while still incorporating the initial ingredients.

I re-write the recipe.

Adding Love to the situation through…
Discovery
Belief
Choice
Surrender
Trust
Peace

Loving what’s presenting itself to us just now manifests as…

Adopting a fresh attitude,
Discovering how this issue is contributing to my growth, through choosing to believe it’s here as my teacher,
Creating a purpose for its existence even when it seems near impossible at the time. Cradling my thoughts into surrendering to ‘what is’, if I cannot change the situation.
I can also choose to see it as something that is part of a bigger picture, one I am not necessarily privy to just now, so I can add trust along with the surrender.
Perhaps with time, I am able to reflect, to see the experience as a superpower; one that affords me the opportunity to serve others going through their own tough times.

As Shakespeare wrote in Hamlet,

‘There is nothing either good nor bad, but thinking makes it so.’

I’ll leave you with this beautiful piece, called
‘Amazing advice on Happiness at 92 years old.’

It’s relating a story about a 92 year old lady with vision impairment who knew the time had come to enter a nursing home. Her story, I’m sure, will melt your heart. I hope you have time to read it when suits you… there are many gems of life lessons contained within…

As always, I am very grateful to you for being here.
Thank you again Nikki for an awesome prompt…

Much love,
Di xx

 

 

Lessons from a year of Yoga…

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The wall hanging in the studio for Yoga class. I really loved its imperfect appearance with the wiggly words…

 

Hello and welcome to a new post…

I joined Yoga in July last year to recover from the back pain I wrote about in three parts. I’m including the links for easy access. You are welcome to read about that journey if you are a new friend here…

 Curiosity, and the blessings from back pain… Part One

Curiosity and the blessings of Back pain… part two.

Curiosity and the Blessings of Back pain… Part Three

It’s been an eye opening year, and the benefits from Yoga are becoming palpable. These lessons were borne after a class. I began to notice subtle changes over how I was managing setbacks and disappointments during certain poses…

It was as though I’d become less reactive and more patient with myself…

May you enjoy them as they lay their goodness upon me…

✨For every forward bend, inversion, stretch, there is an opposite movement. Too much of one position can create imbalances and cause our body to grow into that stance until it takes much work to undo it.

✨There are times when it hurts…
Hold through the pain, let it flow through you and trust it be over soon, as nothing lasts forever…good and bad.

✨Focusing on breathing, and remembering to breathe through the challenges, creates a naturally peaceful state, and encourages us to be fully in the present moment…

✨Sometimes we cannot do a pose alone. We need to lean on someone, taking turns at being the one who holds the other person up.

✨Remembering that if a pose is unattainable this week, there is always next week. We are forever changing, evolving, or just having a bad day, so it’s certainly worth attempting it next class… we will more than likely attain it then…

✨And if we don’t, remember there things called are baby steps that edge us ever so slowly towards our goal.

✨If we rush into a pose, we may make an incorrect decision about how it’s meant to be…
Take your time.

✨It’s important to remain flexible.
‘Rigid’ doesn’t allow for new moves, and has the potential to keep us stuck in the one position.

✨Sometimes it makes such a difference looking at things from upside down, to fully appreciate what we are looking at.
Often we look without truly seeing.

✨Maintaining poise and balance during a movement allows us to look ahead, to remain relaxed during the challenging poses.

✨Keep your eyes on a focal point. Choose something to focus on and keep it in your sight to maintain balance. Once your eyes roam, and determined focus dissolves, you lose your way…

✨If you lose your balance, don’t stress and be unkind to yourself.
Regain your poise, take a breath, focus and start over…

After all, it’s called ‘Yoga Practice’ for a reason.

✨Don’t, at any cost, compare your ‘now’  to someone else’s ‘now’ who appears to be attaining the poses perfectly…
Life is a journey and we are all on a different part of the path…
Follow your own lead and carve your own…
Only compare where you are today with where YOU were last time…
We can be inspired by them, but not at the expense of our self-worth.

✨Finally, I’ve learnt that we really are one.
We share each other’s joys,
We share each other’s pain.

….Namaste…

Thank you for reading,

Love,
Di 💜

 

 

Forgiveness and self-acceptance, to Sympathetic Joy…

Hello and welcome,

I’d love to share another cuppa together while we ponder sympathetic joy through the art of self-acceptance through forgiveness…

I’m contributing this piece to Debbie, of Forgiving Connects and her ForgivingFridays initiative, where she kindly invites us to ponder the steps we can take towards self-forgiveness, a huge leap towards self-acceptance and love.

 

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Accepting ourselves involves all the traits we deem unworthy of our acceptance.
We cannot begin to see ourselves as whole until we acknowledge those parts of us we are hoping no one notices….

Take jealousy for example…

I’ve been the worst at being jealous of everyone and everything they’ve achieved.
It’s only recently I’m beginning to get a grip on this.

I can see where these intense feelings were coming from now….
I wasn’t happy with myself. It was like life had become one huge race, where there was one set of rules on how to be successful, how to live a happy life…

I was living according to everyone else’s idea of what that should look like.

As a result, I’d allow myself to gravitate towards traits, experiences, material things that I associated with a successful life.

Perhaps I was running away from being myself?

This realisation began through the critical journey towards self-acceptance…

Learning to explore what those intense feelings were trying to teach me, began the journey to accept it as part of me.
And like a naughty child, once some attention is given to them, they don’t feel as desperate to create havoc…

Becoming more comfortable with myself enabled me to reach a point where I can now be happy for others’ successes. Any residual feelings means there are more lessons for me to learn.

As part of this acceptance, I discovered there is a term in Buddhism for this…the wonderful world of Sympathetic Joy.

Once I discovered I could cultivate this by focusing less on ‘eradicating’ jealousy, and focusing on learning how to be truly happy for others, it became a new way of thinking, like a mindful mental workout.

That doesn’t mean that little ‘green eyed monster’ won’t rear its little head any more.

But I’ve made peace with who I am, what I believe are my strengths and can laugh at the ‘rest’ of me now. Believe me, there are plenty of those occasions….

It helps negate the desire for the worst kind of comparison…the type that originates from those feelings of unworthiness, as opposed to being inspired to reach a level we wish to attain, coming from a place of love, or simply just being happy within ourselves for no particular reason.

The act of self-acceptance means when we have our buttons pushed by others, we have a greater capacity for seeing that person with compassion and understanding, knowing where they are coming from….after all, at any given moment we can also be in that place of discomfort and need to lash out in our own way.

In our wholeness, we can also at times be belligerent, jealous, thoughtless…

I forgive myself for feeling inadequate when I compare myself unfavourably against others, or display emotions that I have deemed ‘unworthy’.

A spiritual journey isn’t so much about ignoring  or attempting to ‘mend’ all those parts of us.
It’s about diving deep into our messiness, understanding ourselves, going ‘within’ in order to have greater capacity to emerge, with greater awareness of the impact we have on others.

In a way, it can become the essence of our purpose…

It begs us to ask the question, ‘How can I be more loving in this situation?’

We learn to respond rather than react.

When we return to the world in a state of non-judgement towards ourselves, we can offer this gift of peace, of being fully present and compassionate towards everyone we meet, including revelling in their joyful moments.
In other words, we see ‘us’ in everyone….

Everyone becomes our teacher, helping us forge deeper roots to anchor our growth…

It embraces the power of connection, and is my new interpretation of the expression ‘we are all connected’…

…when we can delight in the joy of others, because we too understand joy,
and also…

…when we can sit with them in their pain, because we have also known pain.

That’s when the beautiful magic between us and others begins…

The quote by Teal Swan is from the link I’m including here, titled ‘Self Love – The great Shortcut to Enlightenment.’
If you have a desire to listen in your own time, I hope you enjoy it too. There are some amazing pearls of wisdom in her teachings.

As always, I thank you for being here,
Much love from Di 💜